do me a favor. If you are thinking about breaking up with your guy or gal. Just freaking go ahead and do it!. Have the guts!. If you really think things are not working out, and feel that you really should just end it... End it!.
Stop caring about their feelings, or whatever idea you may have to justify your lack of guts. Of course, do it with tact, and in a decent manner. But it will hurt EITHER WAY!. And if you are considering the let's be bad so that he/she is the one that breaks me up... DON'T!. (And that goes specially for the guys!... Why the f**k?).
See... Someone's love is fragile as a flower, and as a proper flower, if you don't want it anymore in your garden, you just have to cut it away. But, if you really care for this flower, and even want to give it the chance to heal fast and probably find a new garden to grow even better. You just have to do a clean fast cut!.
If you keep thinking about it, and letting it feel how you are drifting apart, without understanding what is going on, it is as if you are tearing it apart by twisting it around, and pulling... THAT IS PAINFUL!!!!!...
With a clean fast cut, it will still hurt... A freaking lot... But you are actually being a gentleman (or a proper lady), you are not fooling around with someone's feelings, and you are actually leaving this great little flower with enough energy to heal properly somewhere else.
A lot of times people grow bitter in terms of relationships, not because of how bad a relationship was, but because of how much the breaking up process did hurt. So please, make sure you are not messing someone up like that, and if it is to happen. Do it fast, nice and easy.
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And... Don't worry... Although this is a topic that I feel strong about, and it has hit close home due to recent events. I find my self away from it and happy... With a growing relationship with Wend, filled with a lot of great talks and smiles. Hope and joy... She... Really is a great conversationalist, and we can be so silly together too, just laughing out loud like crazy...
I like making her blush too!... He he he.
Yup... I am doing fine. Thanks for asking!. ^_^
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ps. Thank you people!. Judging by the stats, some of you did the whole sharing thingie, or something magic happened and indeed a lot of people showed up yesterday. We were 8 people short of that silly milestone that was bugging me though. Sniff... He he he. Oh well. So it was only 8 people to 1,500 visits!!... ^_^ Which, in my humble context, is quite a cool number. So, cheers to thee all and thanks for sticking around!.
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Dude... don't be so hard. I know is bad for people to be such cowards... but they do it 'coz they have issues...
I have had my share in shitty breakings... and most of my friends are as coward as you describe... but they ARE my friends, and I know for a fact that they are good guys.
If you just knew how hard it can be sometimes and how much can that breacking up mean for your whole life and how much that could change and affect you in argh! dude have you ever...imagine how would you breack up Wend.. i dont even know if i should ...
Breaking up, believe me I know, is not easy at all. At the end there will always be tears... If things were at least once good, hurting and even denial feelings will arise.
But that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it!. And even more, that means that you SHOULDN'T EVER use the "let's be mean so that the other one breaks me up" technique. That, at least on my book, is acting cowards.
And Victor, I know. Most those guys are really good, some of my friends too. But that doesn't make me see it as a good thing.
So far, I cannot even conceive being at such stage with Wend. But if it ever comes to that, I hope I have the wisdom to do it the proper way. As much as I hope she has it if it comes from her.
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