Women with all their beauty

and seducing ways, are an ever growing enigma to me. I have come though, to the conclusion that the best is to stop trying to understand them... Something that I have said before, probably many times. They are not to be understood, just loved and hugged.

... But there are, it seems, some general aspects that are funny to observe. Like the "tennis ball" phenomenon as they call it. Pfffft... No well, I don't really like that concept. But it is that, the best way to keep a girl it seems, is to not try to keep her at all. To almost not care.

This is where most of us, or a lot of us, fail miserably. Because us, guys, are wired differently when it comes down to "caring". We can have fun, be "players" if we want, and fool around. But when we care?, when we fall?... Fuck it we are doomed. It shows that we care...

Girls like it if you don't care. Really.

This summer, for example, out in a fun night I was just dancing away with some girls. I am not a great dancer, but in a Latin Bar in Canada, I would say almost any Mexican with an innate sense of rhythm, will be considered smooth and cool. Either way, it was just another male friend and me, with 5 girls I think. It was just good fun...

And then, a little later, came another girl... Very good looking, the "bad girl" look with tattoos, enticing smile, and indiscreet cleavage. On we danced... We drink ed we laughed, and it was all good times. The night moved on, and it could have moved on into "other" things...

I didn't want to. Many reasons behind this.

What happens after?. I am considered "gay" of course!. I am fun, cool, could dance and when it comes down to "it"... I back off. Well, such "gayness" made the girl message me several times, call me, and want to go out again. It seems that, in order to draw her attention and make her interested, all it took, was not being interested at all...

... Not raising my ego or anything. Just stating a funny aspect. One example... I don't want to list many, but there are several in my life that show me how my best "pick up" times with girls and making them interested, is when I am really not thinking about that at all. I go out for fun, whatever, joke... And then all of a sudden PUM... They like me. There must be a hidden lesson behind all this!

It seems to go on like this with many girls. My problem?. When I am in love and care and become passionate about someone, I lose this "not care" attitude and become very involved... Not a bad thing, but it just doesn't seem to work that great. I need to learn to "chill" even when I am on it. (on it = in love, worst and strongest drug ever).

By the way... Am I avoiding talking about her, or France?... Maybe. It's right now going on, too close and kind of confusing... Weird, and I don't know what to make of it all my self. ** sigh **

Cheers

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Update: Girls, friends... Don't take this wrong, cocky from me, or personal... It's just the way it is sometimes. Each post tends to be an extreme, I am, at the end, maybe a blurred version of the "average" of all the crap I say...