a lot, in a lot of places, about girls and what they like in a man. Relationships in general, etc. That is what I do, I read about stuff that interests me. Ok?. Anyway...
I've noticed that... Well, most of the stuff out there about what women want, is written by guys, and it pretty much explains all the basics for becoming a player. I am not a player and don't ever want to be. That way of acting would be stupid and un natural to me... So...
What do women really want?. We all know jerks and bad guys tend to have all the girls they want. And... It is something that messes me up. Really.
What do you girls want?. What do you girls see in such guys and how can a nice guy give that to you, without acting, becoming a player, or loosing his essence?. How can we, nice guys, keep you interested and around?.
... Please... Do answer!. I want to hear this from a woman... What is so appealing about the bad guys?. How can we nice guys give that to you?. What do you really want?!...
... O.o
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Most of those sites point to Sex as an importan issue, but in Mexican (religion) culture, that's Shimata O.o.
I wish I knew too.. I wish I knew...
What 'Tortuga Estelar' said might be true in many cases.. the bad thing (in my point of view) is that actually we don't have those kind of probs..
We actually can meet new people and make friends quite easily..
meh.. who knows
Yes, we are not that kind of "nice" guy... We do get along with girls, and they find us attractive a lot of times.
The issue is in trully understanding them, to build a great relationship and make things better in the longer run.
Not really worried about dating or hook ups.
Many times we feel the need to go for the "bad" guys because well at least in my case, i have the rest of my life to be settled down with a good man. I only got so many years to be a kid, teenager,and such that i want to be able to take advantage of these few years before i settle down for the REST OF MY LIFE... scary thought...that being with a good guy is something i want but not necessarily NEED right now
hope it helps! :)
You got that right Tortuga!!... He he he. By the way, I like the name. "tortuga estelar" sounds quite cool.
Reminds me of Casiopea for some reason. (From momo).
... Actually, I was getting to that conclussion my self. After reading so much, and so many contradicting stuff...
I guess, live and learn. Dont put up with anybody's shit, and try and find a way to make your couple happy , yet remaining happy and whole yourself.
And anonymous... I so know what you mean there. Heh... Commitment is a big scaaaaary word!!... Have you seen high fidelity?... Good insight to a guy's point of view of the matter.
Then again, every person is different. I have friends that won't even think about dating a "nice girl" because they are too boring, and won't do "fun stuff"... (which, for men, is mostly sex stuff).
... Nice girls do come across as "great friends", but they never present themselves as interesting otherwise. And thus, they don't appeal as more than that.
So... Yes, actually. Nice girls tend to have that same issue. And I have had female friends telling me that and being quite frustrated.
... So, we have two things, one is when dating. And how to get a date and people interested in you. And the other, in keeping a relationship working. Two separate topics and matters.
Damn... This whole thing deserves a post of it's own tortuga girl!!!... ^_^
He he he.
And Casiopea!!... That is a pretty darn cool name!!!... I love Momo. ^_^
I wanted to leave a comment on your blog, or email you. But... I can't!... So, I hope you read this.
GOOD LUCK WITH THOSE EYES!!!!...
And thanks for sharing in this spacingout space. ^_^
Hmmm... geez.
I really don't know what to say, but lately I've started to believe that girls do like good guys, but maybe they find more interesting the idea of turning a bad guy into her sweet good puppy...
Most bad guys that I know end up, eventually; castrated by their girls... at least us good guys have the chance of remaining true to ourselves.
But in the end, I have come to believe is that what really matter is self teem and confidence? girls love this, and maybe the whole ?bad boy? attitude is often misread as a high self teem rather than a facade.
Argh? good topic
I think that what a girl wants is a little random, maybe you should ask what does Wend want?, or how to remain happiness in our relationship due the sitance? i only know that the only proven though is comunication, is hard for someone else to answer that for her and yourself, so my opinion is that just be open be yourself, and try to keep it real noone has the answer to those questions, its like and universal mistery.
in my own personal experience when i was a good girl i never got dates until i decided to be more liberal he he i am not naughty but i am not a saint either, and i personaly like the good guys, i find them more interesting, so depends on what the person is looking for, either fun or commitment. i settle down young and i dont regret it but that is just me, i wanted something real not like anonymous, so if you ever bump into the answer by any change through your search let me know ok? that would be a nice fact to know LOL =)
What us guys want?.. it depends on the guy.
Bad guys= Sex
Nice guys= Company, laughter, maybe marriage?.
I think a girl wants to know someone and find something new all the time, she wants to be surprised all the time.
That's soooooooooo not true Julio
of course nice guys want SEX!!!
eventually, but surely we crave it!
... unless you are talking about nice GAYS guys that date women.
Yes Julius, I believe you got that totally wrong. Honest.
Maybe, just maybe, you could say: Bad guys = JUST sex. But, even then I would disagree. A lot of them like feeling they can control people, "have it their way" and such. It is not only related to sex.
Nice guys though... Well. I am writting about it on my next post. But bottom line is: we like sex too!!!... We can do without it and wait, etc.
But... Heh... Ok, gotta stop. It really is worthy of another post.
That... And the marriage thing Julio... That was freaky too!. :-P
Maybe... "long term relationship" sounds better. ^_~
Forgot to mention we also like bad guys for the same reason we end up going out with gay guys, we really and honestly think that we can make them change and even when we see that it is near impossible, we dont give up... sad i know
What I meant is that Bad Guys just want SEX.
Nice guys too, but is not the main goal, the main goal is the person as a whole.
And I mentioned "Marriage?".. as the Final Goal of dating, like the End of the Race. But not just Marriage, long term (forever) marriage. :-)
That would be the final goal of this game. Like the "Happy ending" of an RPG where you do all the things you need to do, is the difficult path to choose.
Of course that all of us (both parts) want sex. But for the Bad Guys that's the goal (basically), for the Nice Guys sex is just a consequence, a reward and the goal is the person.
Anyway (if this conversation is still on).. I find it depresing that girls look for "bad guys" to have FUN!!
and then, good guys are left out for the boring married life.. wich includes much more responsabilities..
So, why should they just have fun and no responsabilities???
He he he... Tortuga, I am getting to that post soon. Really.
I believe the proper balance isn't in being "white" or "black". The fun is in the gray bits!!...
My goal though, is to somehow redeem the label "nice guy". A guy can be kind, and nice to a girl. Yet at the same time challenging, fun, not clingy, quite sexual, and all!...
Yet, at the end, yes... I don't think we will ever figure out each other. He he he.
By the way... Great to see you around Casiopea girl!... ^_^
How are those eyes?.
Hey tortuga, when you login to blogger, you are in your "dashboard". There, click on your blog's name.
Up there, there are several tabs. Click on the "settings" one, and then, that one will show several options. One is "comments".
You just put up the settings you want, and you should be set.
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